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Tuesday, August 12, 2014
Awakening
As performers know so well, timing is everything. Yet the final and dark act in Robin Williams’ life performance seems so misplaced. Even as the news of his death spread last night, I expected to see him pop up on maybe, a late-night TV show to assure me he was just pulling my leg. Alas, Letterman and Fallon ran reruns. This was no joke.
Besides paying him tribute for the wit and wisdom his performances have gifted me, I am compelled to think about all the talented men and women in my life who have that enviable ability to light up and even take over any room they walk into. Those whose energy often energizes me. And I realize Williams’ last act may actually be more important in getting me and the culture to understand how overpowering depression and addiction can be to those whose energy seems endless. I promise not to forget this.
Besides paying him tribute for the wit and wisdom his performances have gifted me, I am compelled to think about all the talented men and women in my life who have that enviable ability to light up and even take over any room they walk into. Those whose energy often energizes me. And I realize Williams’ last act may actually be more important in getting me and the culture to understand how overpowering depression and addiction can be to those whose energy seems endless. I promise not to forget this.
Friday, November 22, 2013
Black Friday
November 22, 1963. I was in my high school freshman English
class when the principal’s voice came over the intercom – sounding weaker than his
usual bellow, yet ever more serious. When he got to the part about President Kennedy
having been shot in Dallas, my teacher (a very pretty, very self-assured young
woman rumored to be dating a NY Giants football player) literally fell into the
chair behind the teacher’s desk. She didn’t look so pretty or seem as socially
legendary anymore. She slumped and quietly cried. She could not speak. The principal
had said enough, ending with instructions for an early dismissal
– which got me home within minutes of Walter Cronkite’s iconic controlled yet emotional
delivery of the official news that the President was dead. This was the first
time I experienced the world around me shutting down and remaining hauntingly
still – a stillness and shock that would last hours through the news of Officer
Tippit’s death and the return of the Johnsons and Kennedys to D.C. - and continue through the days we watched Ruby shoot Oswald –
in real time -- on a boxy black-and-white TV in my living room, and then the
funeral.
November 22, 1963. That is the Friday in November I have
always associated with the seasonal tag – Black Friday – never the shopping day
after Thanksgiving. This Black Friday actually precipitated the closing of most
stores – through the mournful weekend and funeral – all of which draped their
window displays in black fabric, festooning the official photograph of the President, smiling broadly, contrasted only by the red, white, and blue of an American flag.
Having the entire world stop
and then remain still for some time was different than the way
family and dear friends drop out of the otherwise unaffected flow of the universe for a
few days, grieving the loss of a close relative or friend. Through the fifty years since then I can count
on one hand the other times I’ve felt that extended collective pause: September
11, 2003, January 26,1986 and December 14, 2012. Three too many.Sunday, June 23, 2013
Big City, Little City (One)
My summer started, with my expectations of city folk about
to be derailed.
Photo: Flickr.com/reivax |
I walked ‘bout a half mile up 33rd Street to Broadway, locating the hotel I‘d booked for the night. Only catch – check-in wasn't until four. With a suitcase mostly filled with books (I’d be attending the New York Book Festival tomorrow – in the same hotel) and two business-casual-changes folded in the large shoulder tote, taking a bite out of the Big Apple on arrival day wasn't going to be easy. Crowded New York street crossings are not suitcase-on-wheels/stuffed-shoulder-totes friendly. Conventional wisdom told me throngs of city dwellers and workers weren't necessarily friendly on a number of levels, no less on the corners of their congested streets.
But there I stood at the revolving door of the hotel. The
doormen looked more business-like than polite as they waved guests in and out
of the threshold’s spin-around. Yet, it wouldn't hurt to go in, I thought. I'd ask
if there was a place I could leave my baggage until four (even as I questioned
how secure is secure behind the front desk of a big city hotel). I waited in line for my turn with a desk clerk. A sympathetic desk clerk I hoped.
“I’m booked here for tonight,” I explained. “I was wondering
if you had a place I could –“
“Name,” she interrupted.So much for sympathetic.
I gave my last name. Almost immediately she followed-up with my first. Then
asked for a credit card. Her fingers clicked the keyboard, her eyes glued
to the computer screen
“Your room is ready,” she announced.
“Really?” I said. “And I was just hoping to be able to
leave my bags some –“
“Christmas in June,” she remarked, then cracked a smile. “The first elevator will take you up to 18. It’s
the highest level,“ she said as she handed me my scan key.
“Even better than Christmas in July,” I said. “Thank you
so much.”
I headed for the only elevator that went to the top level, and said a
silent prayer there’d be no fire !
(to be continued)
Tuesday, June 18, 2013
This Little Writer Goes to Market
If you read Mommy of the Bride regularly, it’ll come as no surprise that I enjoy writing and blogging observations and family stories. The flip side of freelance writing is marketing the material. Not so much my cup of tea.
Fresher analogy: If " writing" were my baby –marketing would
be akin to diapering the kid. Essential,
but not so pleasant. At least not until after the initial step.
Now, almost two years after publishing my memoir Staying Alive: A Love Story, this little
writer is going to market once again. The
endeavor takes great planning, and then getting here and there to (the best
part) readers and professionals in the book industry.
If you are near the here and there I’ll be showing up at, join me for a
chat, a talk, a reading. Through the summer I’ll be in NYC, Connecticut, and
Massachusetts.
- Saturday, June 22 I’m honored to have been invited to participate on a panel on marketing – of all things(!) -- at the New York Book Festival being held at the Radisson Martinique on Broadway, 49 West 42nd Street. It’s an all-day event and it’s free! Staying Alive: A Love Story just received an honorable mention in the Festival’s “"annual competition honoring books that deserve greater attention from the world’s publishing capital," according to the NY Book Fest website (http://newyorkbookfestival.com/).I'm a tad nervous about the trip and requisite schmoozing! We’ll see what happens.
- Monday, June 24 I’ll be at the Agawam (MA) Public Library (750 Cooper Street) for READLocal, along with fifteen other area writers for a meet and greet. The event starts at 6 PM.
- Saturday, July 13 you’ll find me (and only me) at Bank Street Books ( 53 West Main St.) in Mystic, CT from noon to one. Great vacation spot, Mystic is. The bookstore is in the heart of the pretty town.
There are more CT and MA visits coming in
September too.
And while I’m in marketing mode – allow me to
ask a favor. If you've read the memoir, please take a few minutes to leave a short review on the book's Amazon , bn.com, or Goodreads
site.
Saturday, June 1, 2013
Moms Have Ways of Finding Out!
EFHS graduation photo from digplanet.com |
I heard it through the grapevine – and you know how those
grapevine sound bites go. You’re never quite sure where the truth ends and the embellishment
starts. Yet, as much as the word-of-mouth nearly knocked me off my feet, it
made all the sense in the world.
The news item involved my son and his high school
buddies. They were – still are – a like-minded crew and even though it’s been
eight years since they graduated together, this crew has stuck together through many stories their mothers have heard as well as ones we haven't, along with the miles that separate most of them today. Between high school and
post-college days some of them have occasionally lived together (a few still do), continued to play in an adult soccer league together, and made a ritual of their
annual summer weekend at Lake Sunapee. Those who have settled in South Hadley
and Boston and even as far away as Pennsylvania and Virginia have simply made
their relocations places for the others to visit. Regularly.
Not terribly unusual – and I’d say it’s a fairly low-risk
bet these ties will continue. But here comes the part that caught me unawares.
That made my mouth drop and gasp, “My son? And yours? Really!”
I heard it from one of the other boy’s mom, the mom who
for years now, has so graciously cooked up a storm and, I understand, steered
the speedboat on Sunapee every summer while the crew took turns water skiing
and tubing their way around the lake.
That is, when the crew was not otherwise
engaged in some clandestine activity - like fashioning a newfangled floatation device from a recycled lawn chair they'd attached
to wooden runners. A contraption that,
when it did stay afloat tethered to the speeding motorboat, caused quite a stir
on the Sunapee shores. Yes, that’s the direction these young adults’ minds tend
to go given some idle time – the
engineers and entrepreneurs’ workshop more or less.
Anyway, an official
letter had gone to the Sunapee-speedboat-driving -mom’s house , since
the former high school of these boys and one girl (as I heard it) had her son’s
home address on record.
“If the letter didn’t come to the house, I probably would
not have known either,“ she admitted. Yet, alas it had - with very specific information about where
each of these friends were to report and at what exact time – for the
presentation, she explained.
“Presentation?” I asked.
“Yes, but they’re not getting anything.” .
I was clearly confused until she said, “They’re giving
a scholarship.” You could have knocked me over with a whistle as she continued, “A scholarship to a
student going on in science - in honor of their high school science teachers. “
Why, those rascals, I thought – eight years out of high
school, all (fortunately) employed and now pooling their resources– as a way to thank
a few Misters and Misses who nurtured their (and I say this in a most complementary way)
nerdy adolescent minds.
That's the way I heard it, anyway.
Texted my son after getting the word on the street.
Texted my son after getting the word on the street.
Never know what your kids are up to ! .
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